|Anonymous: I have yet to receive an actual answer on this question from any feminist; why do you need to focus on women? There IS sexism against men. Ask a loving father who gave up his daughter to a neglecting mother because "women make better parents". Or how about men who can't jokingly make fun of a friend who is a girl because, from my friend's mouth, "he's a guy, guys can't say stuff like that to girls but we can say it to them". Why can't we just have equalism? Where we focus on EVERYONE not one.|
I was going to delete this but then I thought that given how nice and educational I’m feeling, today’s the one and only day when I will answer basic shit like this.
The reason no one has answered your bullshit question is because most of us have evolved far beyond the level of feminism where we’re all about being nice and educating people who are unwilling to learn. If you gave a single fuck about the answer to this question, you would have already done your research. Putting minimal effort into researching would have taught you that women are systematically discriminated against and oppressed by men, that no, sexism against men doesn’t actually exist, and that giving an equal amount of attention to the oppressors as we do to the oppressed changes exactly nothing.
There is no sexism against men. Everything you can call sexism against men stems from misogyny. To respond to your particular example, in about 90% of divorce cases, the parents decide who gets custody without the court getting involved. When the courts do get involved, however, about 70% of fathers who seek custody get it. There is no court bias, and once again, if you had done any research at all, you would have probably already learned this.
Regarding what your friend said, I’m assuming that what you failed to specify was that the jokes in question were misogynistic and not just playful teasing between friends, in which case they’re absolutely right. There is a huge difference between making fun of the oppressors (i.e. men, if that’s not already clear enough) and making fun of the oppressed. Jokes that make women the punchline aren’t jokes, because they perpetuate a systemic oppression that has been in place for centuries. They are harmful because they reinforce an existing misogynistic mindset. “Misandry” jokes are reactionary. They are an act of resistance. And unlike misogynistic jokes, they are just words that will never cause violence or oppression of any kind. Note how strange it is that 99% of the time it’s only jokes against the oppressors that illicit a response from anyone. When people make fun of the oppressed, that’s still passed off as just a joke.
So no, we can’t have “equalism” and focus on everyone equally. Women face a whole slew of issues that men don’t even realize exist. If you take an inequality and add the same constant to both sides, it remains an inequality. Feminism is necessary and must absolutely prioritize women if we aim to change that.
Next time feel free to go through my feminism tag and Google some stuff before you waste my time with questions that have already been answered a million times.
next time someone tells you Muslim countries oppress women, let them know Pakistan, Bangladesh, Indonesia, Turkey, Kosovo, Kyrgyzstan, and Senegal have all had female Presidents or Prime Ministers and 1/3rd of Egypt’s parliament is female but the US has yet to even have a female vice president and can’t say “vagina” when discussing female reproductive rights
that girl you just called ugly? she’s tatiana maslany
that boy you beat up? he’s tatiana maslany too
look at yourself
you’re tatiana maslany
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